Praveenben Story

  I have finished my dinner and came back to my home office. It is about 11PM. I’m feeling sleepy and yet I want to finish my tasks before I sleep… I am doing my work and fell into sleep in the chair without my knowledge… Suddenly I heard the voice of knocking the door and I suddenly woke up… My wife came to the office with a glass of milk and some fruits… It is her regular practice before her sleep… I’m feeling giddiness and some discomfort in my body…. I finished drinking milk…. As the discomfort continued I have dropped  the idea of continuing the work and along with my wife gone to our bedroom… I’m trying to sleep while the feeling of discomfort continued… My wife is comforting me… and asking what is the problem… I have explained my problem to her and that situation continued for about 30 minutes and finally I vomited… After that discomfort eased and I slept…. As usual I woke up in the morning and visited my home office for planning my work… See! this is my regular pr...

  Before I answer this question I need to reveal my backdrop… I quit government job of Assistant commissioner of commercial taxes in 2009, which is perceived as the highest post by the Society…. From society point view it may be good job but I’m not at all comfortable there… The other reason is to fulfill my highest dreams of entrepreneurship… But I don’t know how to proceed with this dream exactly… During those days I have created a blogger blog to time pass… That is why I have posted most of the articles during 2009… But later on blogging became my business model… And my company  Koben marketing solutions  come into existence in 2011… I have been managing this company along with my wife and few staff members… Initial years we have seen perceptible success with blogging… In fact we are able to achieve positive cash flows and naturally I’m happy with the way I’m going… However, my happiness doesn’t last long… I have depended on Google for blog traffic… Whether you know or...

  1. Have you taken my past experience into consideration? And if so will you agree or disagree with my opinion… 2. Have you taken your mama’s experience into consideration? And if so what is mama’s opinion about civil services…. 3. Have you taken your mom’s opinion and her experience into consideration? 4. Do you aware that Government job fetch meager salaries? 5. If you consider Government job as a career, are you ready to lead simple or mediocre life? 6. Don’t you have biggest ambitions in your life? And if so why you’re not exploring the possibilities… 7. Have you considered all other options before come to the conclusion that government job is the best one? 8. Have you decided what you want from this life? 9. Are you conscious of your decision as it is against my core life values? 10. Don’t you want part of Koben team? Before taking important life decision you need to answer the above relevant questions so that you can take a carefully thought-out decision… These question...

  When I am struggling to settle in the life I have no Mentor to guide me…. At the time I have no idea of entrepreneurship… I have no alternative but to join the government service…. Subsequently I have realized the benefits of entrepreneurship and wriggled out of job…. I’m sure my brother-in-law also has undergone more or less the same circumstances…. I think that he may also follow my suit one-day…. Considering my mental trauma I have decided to create a platform so that by the time my children finished their graduation they can take it forward if they desired so… That is a one of the reasons Koben marketing solutions came to existence…. Koben is on the verge of successful path…. But it seems to me that my son is blind to this opportunity right under his nose… This is to make him aware that opportunity is knocking… Whether he opens the door or ignores it?

  One thing I have given to my children is FREEDOM… Right from the childhood they are exercising and enjoying this weapon of FREEDOM… Though some of their decisions are not in tune with my wishes yet I have never imposed my decisions on them… What it implies is that I have been respecting their individuality and their wisdom… Why I have used the phrase “triple edged sword”? It means freedom can be used in three ways… Use it fully to live life according to their heart desires… This gives them the highest joy in their life…. Not realizing its value under using it…. This does not give highest joy and yet they can live satisfactory life… Misusing the freedom… This is the problematic zone… It has painful consequences in their life… Hopefully my children will take wise decisions and enjoy their life

  Is it power? Is it money? Is it service? The phrase civil services denote it is service…. Those who are holding these services are public servants… Majority civil servants do not think it as a service…. They think it as power and money… Otherwise why there is so much of craze? Here I recall one of the incidents that happened recently… A fourth class employee Municipal Corporation came to serve a notice in my house… When he knocks the door my youngest son opened the door… After some time I heard some tussle between my son and that person… I  got down and shouted to him that “don’t you have patience dealing with children…. After all you are our servant” He could not comprehend what I’m talking… He continued his argument and said that “I am not your servant I am a government employee” Here the problem is that public not realizing that these people are servants and they are supposed to serve with utmost devotion and dedication… And these servants never think that they are s...

  Just now my brother-in-law spoke to me about my eldest son career… In essence he is asking my suggestion about my sons coaching… I listened to him carefully and after a while I asked him whether he is asking my advice or just informing about his decision… He tried to convince me that Delhi is the best place for coaching so that his success can be ensured… Here are the some of the facts I have conveyed to him.. 1. The decision to join civil services is my son’s decision only… 2. I have never imposed my decisions on my children… 3. I have given complete freedom for my children to take any decision in their life matters… 4. Whatever the decision my children will take I’ll support it because it is my responsibility… 5. And however they are responsible for their decisions… 6. My experience taught me that Group I or civil services doesn’t fit into my consciousness… 7. These services are a hindrance to our honest and authentic life… 8. We can’t fulfill our ambitions and live life j...

A few days back (13th Nov 2014) my eldest son Pinku left to HYD for IAS Coaching. Before he boarded auto rickshaw he has given me an emotional hug. Patting his back I said him “relax”… At the moment of giving hug I have sensed his anxiety and therefore I comforted him saying “relax”… Before this incident I have also undergone a deep emotional and disturbed state of mind as my son has chosen to go in the opposite direction of my life path… Here I must tell my backdrop so that one can comprehend this in the right perspective… Five years back I left the Group-I service to clean myself and to get back my freedom... And also ....I want to be the role model to my children... For the last four or five years I have been struggling to sustain my dream company which is on the verge of success path... I thought that my son will choose entrepreneurial life taking cues from my life experiences…. But sadly my son chooses to go civil service path... Perhaps he couldn't feel po...