Are we very grown up children?
Sometimes I feel that we are not grown enough and remained as children. If we closely observe our behavior, what we are doing today is nothing but the replay of childhood experiences and feelings. We vote the same party that our parents voted. We follow the same rituals that our parents followed. We choose the same profession or job that practiced by our parents. Our food habits, dressing style, etc. are mere reflections of childhood experiences.
In the light of the above observations how can we be considered as grown-up children? What we learned and imitated by observing our parents and society is not our behavior. We are just enacting the role played by the others. Our behavior never reflects our true inner self. Our original self is masked and therefore it never comes out. I try to explain my observation with reference to the following examples.
The person who grown-up in an atmosphere, where he was told that good job commands great respect, is always under the influence that the particular job is great. In spite of the fact that the so called job never gives such real experience he continuously lives in perceptions rather than in realities. He does not venture to go beyond the perceptions.
Child hood experiential replaying is seen in walks of life. Sons of cine heroes become cinema heroes. Children of entrepreneurs become entrepreneurs. Children of politicians become politicians. The people who grown-up in poverty ridden atmosphere tend to lead poverty ridden life after they become adults. Examples are endless……………..
This is what is happening generally, however there are exceptions. Some exceptional people break the mental barriers and try to deviate from the beaten track and such people become creative and extraordinary persons.
The above references clearly indicate that even though we are growing physically, mentally we are not growing enough. That means mental growth is not matching with physical growth. We are thus masked as adults but in reality we remain as children.
The biggest behavioral problem is replaying childhood experiences over and over again. Unless we break down childhood beliefs perceptions there is no possibility of exploring our full potential and becoming complete human being. Don't blindly follow the beaten track, pause for a while, think logically and try to deviate and explore new areas. Your creativity blossom in to extra- ordinary achievements. Don't be a child. Grow up.
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In the light of the above observations how can we be considered as grown-up children? What we learned and imitated by observing our parents and society is not our behavior. We are just enacting the role played by the others. Our behavior never reflects our true inner self. Our original self is masked and therefore it never comes out. I try to explain my observation with reference to the following examples.
The person who grown-up in an atmosphere, where he was told that good job commands great respect, is always under the influence that the particular job is great. In spite of the fact that the so called job never gives such real experience he continuously lives in perceptions rather than in realities. He does not venture to go beyond the perceptions.
Child hood experiential replaying is seen in walks of life. Sons of cine heroes become cinema heroes. Children of entrepreneurs become entrepreneurs. Children of politicians become politicians. The people who grown-up in poverty ridden atmosphere tend to lead poverty ridden life after they become adults. Examples are endless……………..
This is what is happening generally, however there are exceptions. Some exceptional people break the mental barriers and try to deviate from the beaten track and such people become creative and extraordinary persons.
The above references clearly indicate that even though we are growing physically, mentally we are not growing enough. That means mental growth is not matching with physical growth. We are thus masked as adults but in reality we remain as children.
The biggest behavioral problem is replaying childhood experiences over and over again. Unless we break down childhood beliefs perceptions there is no possibility of exploring our full potential and becoming complete human being. Don't blindly follow the beaten track, pause for a while, think logically and try to deviate and explore new areas. Your creativity blossom in to extra- ordinary achievements. Don't be a child. Grow up.
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Interesting article.
ReplyDeleteVery true. From childhood, our parents taught us what to do and what not to do. They became our idols and way of living.
And when we grew to an adult, a new fear entered our mind. Fear of failure. In our country a small failure is taken as insult. You have to succeed else, your worth is questioned. That's why more go with the rat race. It's safe.