Raja Ram Raje Trusted
In this blog post I want to talk about the people who trusted me
It is a kind of expression of my gratitude…
Hopefully, this will awaken those who do not trust me…
Look!
There is a saying in English…
“Blood is thicker than water…”
This may be universally true…
But in my case it is untrue…
This blog post reveals that…
In any case let us dive into the story …
First: the story of Raja
He is my brother-in-law.
He is husband of my second sister…
He is a small man but with a big heart.
Here I’m not devaluing by saying the phrase “small man”
It simply means he goes beyond his means to help family members…
He is an embodiment of love…
These are the good feelings about him that I cherish very much…
Once he came to house I have explained about my business…
And I have requested him to some money for my business…
He agreed with my request and arranged it…
He has taken a loan for interest for this purpose…
I could not pay the principle amount in time…
He adjusted that going for 2nd loan…
It is also overdue…
He is still trying to give some time..
Better yet!
He did not ask me any sort of security…
It is not a small amount and yet he risked on my behalf…
What it proves…
He is expressing his care and trust on me…
Otherwise what is the need for him to take risk on my behalf…
Any way!
Here is the 2nd story…
Second: the story of Ram
He is also my brother-in-law…
He is husband of my first sister…
He’s very hard-working family centered man…
I have great respect towards him…
Many people helped and still helping me to pursue my dream…
And he is the key person among them…
He helped me twice…
On both occasions he has given me from his own funds…
At the second time he has taken a loan against the gold…
And it means to help me he put his daughter’s gold at risk…
So what it proves…
He has trusted me in spite of having his reservations about the viability of the company…
Third: the story of Raje (Rajeswara rao)
He’s my father-in-law…
I have a lot of emotional experiences with him…
But one story has highest value in my esteem…
It is relating to the marriage of my fourth sister…
You can read that the details of this story in my blog post “thankless sister”…
Now let us come to the main theme of the story…
The trust versus distrust…
One year back all his children asked him to go for loan against their house property…
Considering the request of his children he has gone for the loan…
His daughter ( my wife ) also benefited from this…
What is the common point among these three stories?
In the first and second story Raja and Ram trusted me…
In the third story Rajeswara rao garu trusted his children…
Now it is the time to tell the story of distrust…
Fourth: the story is about my adoptive mother
In this story I’m revealing how an adoptive mother not trusting an adopted son…
During December 2013 I met my adoptive mother…
I told her that I want loan for my business…
She agreed to that and handed over house property documents to me…
I came back to Vizag with that document…
I have started approaching financial institutions asking for loan….
As you might know they ask all sorts of documents…
So in this connection I need a link document for the house property…
It was the time of Sankranti holidays… i.e. jan2014…
I came to know that my adoptive mother gone to Hyderabad to spend some time with her sister’s daughters houses…
At that time I called her over the phone about the link document…
And there is no proper response from that side…
I have sensed something was going on in her mind…
Finally understood that she was reluctant to go for loan…
I was deeply shocked…
Just 15 days back she agreed and handed over the documents to me…
And within 15 days she changed her mind….
Obviously!
She was influenced by my biological sisters and brother….
Otherwise what changed her mind…
It is for them to answer this question to me…
I try to interpret based on circumstantial evidence…
There might be two possible reasons for change of her mind…
- She did not trust me and my endeavors…
- My biological sisters and brother trying to stop helping me…
I want to elaborate this point in my coming blog posts…
Okay!
Again the same old questions…
My birth parents sent me to the adoptive parents transferring all the rights…
I have discussed this in my blog post “An unwanted child”
But the question is whether my adoptive parents completely accepted me?
If they accept me completely as their son I am the natural inheritor of her assets…
And there is no problem to take the loan against the property….
But why she’s unwilling to go for the loan, knowing well I am in need of capital for the business…
Am I their son?
Does she love me?
The same old questions…
They are unanswered for last 50 years….
During August 2014 I have put these questions for test once again….
At that time I met her as I was told that her health is not good…
At the time I again told her the plight of my condition….
This time I came up with another plan…
As I’m feeling that my biological brother influencing her mind I want to let the benefit of loan to him also…
I therefore told her we both take the loan against the house property and we’ll pay back the loan….
She is agreed to that…
Then I entrusted this job to my biological brother and came back….
Today it is March 16th…
It means seven months lapsed…
Nothing happened on the ground….
In fact it is a golden opportunity for my brother to take the loan and expand his business also along with me….
The stingy people don’t try to grow…
Added to that his behavior appears to be a sinister in nature…
(This I have discussed in my blog post “Sinister brother”)
The people who are reading this blog post may think that I am too harsh…
But I want to tell these people that my observation is based on facts…
It is not based on biased opinion…
If they can prove their loving nature they can do so with the deeds…
I don’t mind withdrawing my observations…
The bottom-line!
I feel an unwanted child…
It is for my adoptive mother to disprove this with her deeds….
The bttomline!
All these issues are deeply emotional…
And everyone who are touched by these emotions need to resolve these inner conflicts…
Otherwise it will have a serious health implications…
So!
Speak out…
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My blogging doesn’t stop until all the inner conflicts are resolved…
Here I want to tell you one more thing…
I want to release a book on this topic through my other blog parenting skills…
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